You want it all
You know what a great relationship looks like and that’s what you want in your life.
Loving, supportive, respectful, caring… you want the whole experience AND you want to be that for someone else.
I love this quote, [Tweet ““The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.”~ Tony Robbins “]
It’s when you look at your husband, wife or child and feel that warm and fuzzy feeling of love, compassion, protectiveness, support and so much more…
I have many clients that have struggled with this in their lives. They feel alone and isolated. That’s why they came to me in the first place.
I don’t have a magic wand or some special love potion but I do have tangible ways to create better bonds.
Here are some simple suggestions to supercharge the relationship in your life.
Respect is such an easy thing to forget about. We get so comfortable with the people in our lives, forgetting to slow down and ease up. Loving relationships carry the most value you ever could hope to gain, enriching your life in more ways than anything else ever could.
Good relationships are where true wealth is.
One of the biggest gifts you can give is respect for your loved one’s interests. For example, my husband loves to hunt. I don’t ‘get’ it, or really ‘like’ it, but it has always been a part of him, starting at an early age and he loves it.
Here is the point. I don’t need to understand it. I don’t need to try to change him. I just need to accept that it is something he loves and is passionate about. And respect it, letting him be who he is unconditionally.
2. Signs of affection
Studies say signs of affection like kissing relieves stress. It creates a sense of connectedness. Isn’t that what we all really want in life? And the extra bonus is kissing is supposed to release endorphins, the chemicals that counteract stress and depression.
I would include hugs and pats on the back with this as well. Remember how it feels when that special someone rubs the small of your back or shoulders? That’s the feeling we’re going for here.
So pucker up and give that big Smooch or hug. You know you want to!
3. Pick your battles
Sometimes fighting becomes a habit. Being quick to react can be the biggest mistake you make.
If you feel your temperature rising, train yourself to step back and take a breather, for as long as it takes to settle down. Learning to take that pause can be the most powerful tool in improving your relationships. I wrote about that in another post HERE, if you want to check it out.
By taking the time you need to respond, instead of reacting, you can choose to let some things go. It’s amazing how dumb many arguments are when you take a look back at them.
I will be adding more tips to healing relationships in future posts so please check back.
As you may know, I am trained in techniques like The Healing Codes, Emotion Code and EFT that can help if you get stuck. While being aware of what works can be beneficial, it sometimes feels impossible to actually make the changes. Using tools to heal whatever the blocks are, will benefit you as well as those around you.
You can schedule a session HERE to get started.
I agree with you so much…respect is the most important factor of good relationships and unconditional respect as illustrated by your personal example is the key! When we start taking relationships for granted, when we think respect need not be shown through little gestures and when we start imposing our own likes and dislikes on our dearest relationships, they start degenerating. Slowly we forget we are responsible for that sourness and wonder what went wrong.
Thanks for sharing such meaningful thoughts!
I’m so glad you ‘get’ it Balroop! I love your perspective on here. You always give it a fresh view. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment!
These are three important things to keep in mind. I think self-respect is so important to develop for the people who are feeling lonely and isolated. It can be difficult to get in and maintain a relationship if you have low self-worth or if you are in one then it possibly will be quite unhealthy. You are absolutely right about picking your battles. Compromise is so important for a healthy relationship.
Absolutely spot on Sebastian! We need to love and respect ourselves in order to have a great relationship. I love your thoughts, you have so much insight to offer and I appreciate you sharing it here 🙂 Thanks so much!
I love these three tips. They are each very powerful, yet relatively simple to implement. It’s been intense lately with lots of potential stress-triggering activities in our lives. My husband and I have informally taken to making an intention each morning as to how we want the day (and our relationship) to be. For example: loving, peaceful, and so on. Thanks for these excellent reminder, Melissa.
I love that Sandra! More couples should place that kind of intention into their days. How could they go wrong if they did 🙂 Thanks for being here!
These are great tips, Melissa. Good reminders for couples who have been together for awhile. We all can easily get into the routine and take each other for granted. Thanks for the always needed reminders!
I know right? Its so easy to get off track and not notice all the simple things our partners do for us. Just paying attention can do wonders for a relationship. Love seeing you here girl!
hi, these are really important factors to keep in mind, all these tips are needed in order for us to have a good healthy relationship. Thanks for sharing . Great article.
Thanks for stopping by Lynn! I appreciate it 🙂 and I’m glad you liked the post.
Thanks for the tips! I’m so glad I’m on your list. I agree with all you said. I always look forward to hearing from you!
Hi Sweet Libby! So glad you’re here! I hope you are doing well and spending good time writing your newest book! I look forward to that!
I agree with all your points. Respect, affection and picking your battles are truly ways to heal and develop stronger relationship ties with the people you love and care for.