Have you ever wondered why even a good change can cause you anxiety and distress on several levels?
Many times in my life I knew that the next step I was going to take was going to be a good choice. It might even have been a fantastic one and yet still I reacted with fear.
Then there were times when I wanted something so bad and then GOT it, yet that same fear or anxiety would creep up out of nowhere. I had won the prize, so why was I reacting this way?
A close friend and I were talking about changes in our lives and how we would often respond so negatively toward them.
As we talked she pointed out to me, “Well you know, change is perceived as loss most of the time.” It doesn’t matter if it is positive or negative change it still equals the loss in some way.
Change is perceived as a loss.
That totally makes sense to me.
Whatever your life looks like, good or bad, over time it will usually feel normal to you.
In that normalcy you find comfort. Any kind of change feels like its shaking things up.
It just doesn’t feel right.
I don’t like my boat getting rocked, do you? It’s scary, I mean you might sink or fall out.
Then what? If you can’t swim you’re a goner! Not good!
The known feels safe.
Anything could happen. It feels much safer to stay in the ‘known’ of your life.
So after thinking a little further about this, I could see why people have a hard time giving up their current circumstances.
People stay in bad relationships because it is safer than the unknown.
You don’t take that perfect job you’ve always wanted because… guessed it, that dreaded unknown again.
And you could lose everything.
Well, I say it’s time to kick that fear in the butt and move forward!
Why not choose thoughts like, “I could gain so much with this change.”
Change brings possibilities. It brings hope. Your dreams can come true.
If your life is about to take a positive new path and it’s stressing you out, here’s a helpful technique.
I use The Healing Codes for most of these kinds of issues but you can also use EFT or other similar tools.
Step 1: write down the change that is causing you stress.
Step 2: Ask yourself what the highest charged emotion you have around this issue is. Many times its fear so I’ll use that as an example.
Step 3: Now ask when earlier in your life did you feel a fear that had a big charge similar to this?
Step 4: Now use one of the tools I mentioned on that early fear as well as the current one.
If you want some instructions on using The Healing Codes contact me HERE and I will send you the Universal Healing Code as well as instructions on how to apply it.
The one thing we can count on in life is CHANGE. Life, relationships, our bodies, the weather.
Change is always happening, so let’s learn to deal with it in a positive way.
let’s start thinking of change as an exciting adventure, leading to your greatest hopes and dreams?
That’s my plan!