I’ve got a busy life…
I know, everyone says that. But lately, I have felt like I have been way busier than I am comfortable with. I have a HUGE family, I think 4 kids, a husband, and a dog deserves to be categorized as HUGE. It reminds me of what Spiderman’s Aunt said to him, “With HUGE family (Oh that’s right, she said Power) comes great responsibility. “ Well it’s almost the same, right? It’s a big responsibility.
Being a natural born go-getter, I tend to go, go and then go some more. That go-getter’s trait can be great in many cases but sometimes it get’s me in trouble.
Doing too much can bring on stress and that’s what I stand on my soapbox preaching about very often, my friends might say too often. But they love me anyway.
So how do you choose where to draw the line to remain balanced? I can usually draw that line easily. My problem is I have a tendency when I get close to it, to just take my foot, smudge it out of the way and draw a new line further up aways.
Are You Pushing Your Own Limits?
Balance is all about making sure you are being true to yourself and giving ‘you’, the self-care you deserve and NEED.
I’m NOT talking about personal hygiene here. I’m talking about your Heart and your Soul. Sometimes it’s easy to think we can keep pushing ourselves to the limit because nothing physical is involved. Our brain can take it, right? It’s not like running a marathon or lifting too much weight before your body is ready.
Wrong, Your heart can break or at least be put out of commission for a while.
I’m talking about your Emotional Heart and the stress you put on this part of you that is well… the Heart and Soul of who you are.
It’s all about balance.
Top Practices For Creating Balance
1. How do you want to feel?
If you had a way to look into the future and see yourself the way you want to be, what would you look like? What would you walk like? And What would you talk like? What would your home be like? How would your family interact with each other? Do you all laugh together? Do you play, dance or sing? What do you do with each other? How would all that feel?
Now compare it to how you are right now. Are they close together? If not let’s close that gap.
Start by taking some time to visualize yourself the way you want to be. By doing that you are drawing your desired outcome closer to you. This is an exercise I use often while doing The Healing Codes and it really works. I love feeling that buzzing excited feeling when I’m done with a really clear session.
2. Stop Producing, You Over Achiever You.
Take time to get out of the house and spend time doing something unproductive. Women are especially guilty of not doing this often enough. They always feel like they need to produce something. That ranges from having babies to laundry… you get it. Stop producing just for an evening. Learn to relax and just BE. It’s only for a few hours.
Come on you can do it.
3. Give Yourself Some Credit
It’s easy to get caught up in feeling you aren’t doing enough (see number 2). I want you to sit down and write what you have accomplished over the last month. Forgetting to appreciate all you are and what you do is a real downer. It deflates, exhausts and wears your emotional heart down faster than anything else. You are your biggest cheerleader and everything you say or do to yourself can either infuse you with energy and life force or… leave you feeling flat, tired and depressed.
By writing down your accomplishments you are in essence cheering yourself on. So give yourself that clap on the back and say, ‘ Hell Yeah I did THAT!’ you deserve it.
4. Be Grateful
I know I’m pulling the gratitude card out again. And I do that often. I do it because it is one of the biggest manifesters you will ever find. It opens up your heart, soul, and body for the greatest gifts you would ever want in your life. Think good health, relationships, success in business, it goes on and on.
Gratitude is not an indulgence. It is a life force that can catapult you to the highest of life’s experiences. Just Do It. Show gratitude in even the smallest of things.
5. Spread The Love
Once a day, do something consciously, that you know would lift another person up. This could be in the form of a phone call, to tell someone you haven’t talked to for a while that you love them. It could be an email saying I miss you. It could be baking cookies for a lonely neighbor. The possibilities are unlimited. When you do something kind, consciously, it expands your heart and soul to a whole new level.
I realize that ‘Busy’ is a big part of our culture but ‘Balance’ should be bigger. We can actually be more productive and efficient with better balance in our lives.
So Take A Chill Pill.
What I’m saying is, you’ll get more of your stuff done, if you make it a practice to chill more often. Try it for yourself and let me know in the comments below how it works in your life.
Photo Credit to Melissa Stratton Photography.