The fear of success
This is a block that many people don’t think about often. Why would we fear Success? It’s what we all want right. There couldn’t be anything that would make us fear Success right?
Wrong
I want you to fast forward to your life with Success. Now think about what negative things could happen if you attain your ultimate success.
#1 The fear you’ll never be satisfied.
What if it’s never enough? You may fear you’ll never be satisfied even after reaching your goals. You will keep going for the next best thing no matter how much you make or how successful you are.
#2 Too much responsibility
Do you fear people would expect too much out of you? It may put a lot of responsibility on your shoulders. When you’re successful you may be the one everyone’s looking to for more support, more donations, more family help etc. That kind of responsibility can be scary. You don’t want to disappoint or make anyone upset with you if you choose something else to support.
#3 Fear of losing it all
With all your newfound success, there can come a fear that you’ll lose it again. You may finally find yourself feeling secure and able to do things you’ve only dreamed of. Then your mind wonders back to the times when you went without. So many people get caught up in this fear, that they end up actually attraction that lacks back into their lives.
Remember you attract what you put your attention on.
Don’t let the old fear of lack bring that story back to life. Let it go and enjoy what you have today and watch your success increase even more.
#4 The envy of others
There’s an old term used in the UK and other places called, “tall poppy syndrome.” It’s used to describe what happens when individuals rise above or are successful in some way. They are resented, criticized or cut down by others because they’ve distinguished or elevated themselves above their peers.
This fear of being cut down can change your interaction with others. If you’re different you may feel disconnected or lose relationships.
Let your unique qualities shine. You have a gift to offer and the only way that’s going to get out there is to stand out in some way. Focus on the people in your lives that support and love you. You’ll find more like you and build even better relationships along the way.
Keep Moving on Up!
When these Fear of Success blocks come forward, it’s a good sign you’re on the right path.
The resistance you’re feeling is an upper limit block that’s keeping you in your comfort zone. Don’t let the fear of success stop you from reaching your greatness. That’s the place where you’ll succeed far beyond your dreams.
Sometimes it’s enough to simply acknowledge the fear and move through it.
Other times you may need some help because it’s so deeply embedded into your internal programming.
If you’re having difficulty getting past it, look at each fear that comes up and tries to find the root source and clear it. There are many techniques used for this, like EFT, The Healing Codes , The Emotion Code, mindful meditation and many more.
The important thing is to work through your fears, so you can grow to tallest height possible.
Success is waiting for you!
Very interesting thoughts Melissa! I’ve often wondered about fear of success. I think sometimes there’s a fear that your life will change. I’ve always been a little fearful of change but I’m changing that thought recently! 🙂
Thanks for the inspiration!
I’m so glad Betsy. This is YOUR year girl! GO for it!
You broke this down so perfectly … Years ago I used to think – that is ridiculous – how could I have a fear of success?!
But the truth is within these points you made … I believe a big one for me was #4 – I was going to lose people in my life.
Truth is I did … those were the people who needed to move on … It does indeed all work out.
Thanks for sharing ….
SO glad to hear it resonates with you Ellie. It was hard for me to understand it in the beginning. Now so many doors have opened 🙂
This really resonates with me. I was always been taller, blonder, younger, had better grades and loved my teachers… and from a VERY early age kept hearing “whatever you do, don’t get noticed.” I was bullied in school because I was different. Because I succeeded. The message continued throughout life: it was the first lesson from my residence head to our whole floor of girls the first week at university. Don’t get noticed. Stuck with me forever and is stuck TO me now. I’m not the tallest and definitely no longer the youngest (!!) but I still feel that way a lot of the time. And the business I dream of feels like it could be HUGE, and that scares the crumbs out of me. So thank you for this reflection!
You go for it Anne. I have a good vibe about you sweetie. It’s your time to shine now! In fact this is the perfect year!
Great question Melissa and something that was first put to me many many years ago by my college professor who suggested I read The Cinderella Complex by Collette Dowling. It is something I still come up against more often then I want to . Thanks for you inspiration xx
Thanks so much for stopping by Suzie! Love your photo 🙂
I believe I have a fear of failure more than fear of success. I have experienced limited success in my life and failures that seem to overshadow the successes. I am sure they are related. Working on trying to overcome the fear aspect. Thank you for sharing!
You’ve hit the nail on the head Liz! Yes the fear is what needs to be cleared. Great job identifying that. Just remember the your future is not your past. Thanks for visiting!
Fear the envy of others? Not really- haha. I have always tried to be “humble” but too late that I realized that it was a false humility and an excuse to love myself in a good way. Yes, I always tell myself to “shine”!
That’s a great plan Rob. I love that kind of self talk, “shine.” Perfect!
Thanks for stopping by 🙂
Hi, I guess fear is inevitable in one’s life, but we all have to face it, we need to overcome our fears in order to move forward and achieve our goals. Thanks for sharing a very informative post.
Thanks for sharing this very enlightening post. Success is indeed waiting for me! Knowing how to overcome your fear of success will definitely help you move forward in your pursuit.