Emotions ARE really felt in the heart.
This morning my oldest son left. Heβs moving to a city 12 hours away but it feels like a whole world away.
For the last several days Iβve kept myself busy with doing things to keep myself distracted. Every now and then my mind would go back to that darling boy in my mind.
That diaper-butt in Levis, running across the living room.
HisΒ trusting Eyes
Those big blue eyes looking up at me for help when he couldnβt quite do something on his own.
His first day of Kindergarten⦠Another milestone, those same blue eyes looking at me with that same sort of excitement but sadness at the same time.
My boy, growing up and going through each stage, looking at me with a variation of that same look.
This morning was no different.
Watching him drive awayβ¦Ugghhhhhh.
I canβt say Iβve ever felt anything quite so heart tugging with such a mix of emotions. I’m feeling like there was a huge weight on my chest and I started breathing wayyy to hard.
And can still feel it as I write this post.
I realize I will be easing through all of this for a while and I am so grateful I have tools like The Healing Codes. It will help me release any emotions of the heart that I may have difficulty processing right now.
It’s not denial or covering up.
Using tools to help process wonβt cover up anything but will help your heart see that all is well. It helps to bring out the positive in the situations and see so many great things. It’s Β much better than wallowing in the negative.
I’m not saying you won’t ‘feel’ anything. I mean we are humans, right?

But The Healing Codes help put you into a relaxed state that makes things feel grounded and stable. They help give support when we need it the most.
And right now I need that support!
God’s guidance and prayer have always brought the right tools to me in his perfect timing. With that support, even thoughts surface easier, like, “Hey we have done a good job as parents.”
We guided himβ¦. Even when he felt he didnβt need it
We gave him spaceβ¦. Even when we didnβt want to.
And most of allβ¦
We loved him with all of our hearts.
So to my Son I say
We are so proud of you Son! Go and have the best life you can and enjoy every second of it.
Follow your dreams
And always remember we are here for you my sweet boy.
Your personal safety net.
We love you.
I can so relate to your feelings Melissa. I remember them well. The good news is that even though they fly the nest, they do return and as some wise someone said the more things change the more they stay the same. What always lasts is the love.
May you continue to ease through with grace. π
Thanks so much Elle, I appreciate it.
I will see him again soon… How could I NOT! Here’s to easing through it all still….
Hi Melissa,
It is a big change when our kids leave home and start their lives. We want them to soar, but it is always nice when they are a shorter drive away. Hopefully as time goes on, you will feel more at ease the with distance and look forward to the visits. How wonderful that your son is doing well and following his dreams.
Hi Cathy,
Yes I’m all for soaring shorter distance- HA! I am planning on flying to see him as often as possible. You know there is great shopping there, so I have even MORE to look forward to. I’m totally looking at the brighter side π
Hi Melissa,
I remember those days well. Take all the time you need to process through this life transition. Your son will be back π
xoxo
Peggy
Thanks Peggy,
You are so sweet. It is easing with each day thankfully. Thanks for stopping by girl π
Hi Melissa,
The emotions you have articulated are so close to the heart of all mothers, who are filled with pride at the new horizons their children are aspiring to reach yet that weird feeling of losing something very precious persists! The whole world seems to stagnate…memories come crowding to make the pain all the more heartbreaking. It takes a long time to reconcile to the fact that detachment is the reality of life!
Keep yourself busy, dear!
Hi Balroop,
Thanks so much for being here. A mother’s heart will always carry her child close no matter what. It makes sense we feel that pain when our children are pulling away. It is beautiful to feel the emotion as there are some that do not ‘feel’. I feel fortunate.
I am keeping busy for sure and that is very helpful.
((Hugs))
Hi Melissa,
The beauty of your post is that it’s dripping with feelings that have cut across civilizations ,jumped over barricades of different cultures,diluted linguistic differences,and done just one phenomenal thing:tug at human hearts.
That’s simply what we all are about.So without a miss every body’s response to this post would ring with similar nostalgia.
That darling blue eyed boy is a global mascot of love.
Thanks Melissa
Mona
Oh you are so sweet my friend!
Your words bring me such warmth and I thank you for that. Everything is settling into what it’s supposed to be and I feel so blessed for all of the people including online in my life today. Wonderful and thank you so much!
As if the entire article wasn’t pulling at the heart strings…. this is where I lost it:
So to my Son I say
We are so proud of you Son! Go and have the best life you can and enjoy every second of it.
Thanks for a beautiful, helpful article.
BIG HUG!
I’m glad you liked it Kimberlee! Thanks so much for being here and taking the time to say a few words. It means a lot to me π
HUGS back atcha!
Thinking of you and sending you lots of love as you navigate through this giant transition.
Today is my daughter Marin’s last day of 8th grade. My husband and I are so proud of the bright, kind and funny young woman she’s becoming. I can hardly believe we are the parents of a high schooler! I started to cry when I realized how quickly she will be leaving our home to begin her own life. Big HUG!
Thanks Shann,
Every milestone has it’s release of new emotions doesn’t it. I don’t think they ever end, which is a GOOD thing. Knowing we love so much is a huge gift! Give her a hug and enjoy every moment!
xoxo
You don’t look old enough to have a child fleeing the nest. π
Such a tender, bittersweet post. Big hugs to you, Melissa!
Oh I’m feelin it these days for sure Michelle but you are so sweet π Thanks for being here for support, I really appreciate it girl!
Hugs