Does the fear of rejection stop you from trying?
The fear of rejection is felt by most of us at one point or another. I still have early memories of playground scenes when the girls pushed me or someone else out of the group.
It left lasting impressions on me and that fear appeared every time I would enter a new group, causing me to stumble or worse give up trying.
Is something wrong with you?
Thoughts that something must be wrong with me came often. That’s definitely not the kind of self talk you want to succeed in life.
What I didn’t understand, was every time I tried to reach out, it was from a place of expecting rejection.
I would start, already knowing I would be rejected, and it created the most awkward moments with new people.
It doomed me to fail before I even got started.
Eventually I became so scared I would avoid mingling with groups all together.
You just want to fit.
Feeling like you fit in, is something we all want.
It’s a place where we feel safe to be ourselves and can trust the people we choose to be around.
To be part of a bigger picture.
Also offering help when needed and receiving it as well.
What fitting in doesn’t mean, is changing yourself to be what others expect you to be.
We all have something different to offer, giving a unique value in areas where others couldn’t.
The gifts we each possess shouldn’t be downplayed or hidden, but shared.
You can’t do that if you’re trying to be something you aren’t.
Allow yourself to be authentically you!
Your people, your tribe are out there. Embracing your authenticity is your way to finding them.
Learn to release the fear of not fitting in and embrace who you are, being proud of that uniqueness.
No one can be a better you.
Once you realize you are enough just the way you are, you’ll be a perfect fit in many more places. Places where you actually love to hang out and have fun. Where you feel comfortable and safe…
When you come into a place where you start to feel that fear of rejection, take a deep breath. Stay in that moment and tell your self “I have value and I have something unique to offer…Me”
I am Enough..Right now!
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There is a biological basis for the this innate fear. Our brains crave to be included in the group and avoid rejection. Back when we roamed the plains, our ancestors were less likely to be eaten and more protected in the safety of group.
We have to consciously challenge this tendency of our brains by becoming aware of this trait and assuring and comforting ourselves with the thinking patterns that you’ve suggested. Has worked wonders for me! 🙂
Hi, loved your post. Being aware that each of us is unique in our own ways would help us avoid the fear of rejection, I am in the process of doing that and guess it is working good for me.. Thanks for sharing. Great post.
I like this post and I know that it will open doors for many others who doubt themselves. Get rid of the fear and see the possibilities!