What is a “Normal” family anyway? The photo above is my family and like most of these type photos, we look like the perfect American family. Underneath it all, every family has it’s own perfectly packaged set of problems. It’s how we choose to deal with these problems that make our life difficult and miserable or complete and fulfilled. It’s our choice.
I am on a family vacation for the weekend and thoroughly enjoying my husband and kids. Watching them have the best time makes me so happy. I’ve got my camera out and I’m taking photos like crazy trying to capture everything I can.
As I watched my children banter back and forth sometimes annoying each other, old memories came back to me of my own childhood. When I first started doing The Healing Codes, most of my childhood memories were not very good. I felt invisible and unloved for the most part and neglected in many ways. As I reached adulthood I avoided seeing too much of my family, because it would cause me so much anxiety. I would fall back into the old role that I had formed to earlier in my life to survive in that relationship. An article I wrote for thehealingcodes.com called The Healing Codes and Family Dynamics addresses much on this topic. Please visit it to read more.
After using the Healing Codes program for quite a while I realized a change in the way I felt toward my family had occurred. I hadn’t even been addressing my extended family issues. I felt more at ease with visits and actually looked forward to getting together. Not only that, I felt sad when the visit ended! When I looked closely at this, I realized that it was more than changing how I felt. They seemed more relaxed around me as well. They still acted the same toward me as well as other people, but somehow we connected differently with each other. It was smoother with less resistance and clashing on both sides. How did practicing my healing codes on myself change them?
Change your channel
The way I like to describe it is like an old radio. Remember the tuner knob that you would use to change the stations? You would keep turning the knob until it would find the station you wanted to stay at. Think of your parent, or anyone, as the radio knob and yourself as the station. If your parents were tuned into your direct radio station for a period of time, that was the frequency you communicated on. When using The Healing Codes for a period of time, you are changing your frequency, so in essence your station. In order to communicate with you, others would have to change their frequency to find your newly established station. They would keep turning their own knob until it met with yours. Both of you have changed to create this new path. Without that change, there would be no communication.
This is the best way I have found to explain this to my clients. I always say you will really GET IT when you see it in action in your own life. Recently a client, that is in her 60′ s, came to me so excited because her lifelong abusive relationship had changed with her Mother. She hadn’t really expected that and had been working more on other health issues. She had actually given up on ever having a good relationship with her Mom. The bonus was her health issue had substantially improved, and she is feeling at peace with her Mom for the first time in her life. She really couldn’t believe it and was so happy with this unexpected gift.
As you can see while you are working on specific things in your life, The Healing Codes has the ability to work in many areas at the same time without even trying. What a gift that is.