Writing & Wisdom
for a soul-centered Life
Writing & Wisdom
for a soul-centered Life
Writing & Wisdom
for a soul-centered Life
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It’s a waste of our precious energy. Wouldn’t you rather dedicate that reserve to healing and well being?
I know that sometimes it can be difficult to let situations in your life go. It may feel like you are doing something productive by holding a grudge or resentment.
The exact opposite is true. Learn to let those feeling go and gain true freedom.
Most of us have something in our life that we need to forgive. It could be another person, a situation, ourselves or even God.
The bugger is, when we don’t forgive or hold onto a grudge, we aren’t hurting the other person at all. They probably don’t even know you are feeling the way you do.
You.
When you are not forgiving, you are placing a more powerful connection between yourself and the very thing that hurt you. It’s like continually rubbing salt in a wound.
You are keeping that anger, hurt and resentment alive and well fed.
If you can find that place within yourself to forgive, you can release yourself from the harm this emotion brings you.
This is the very first of 12 categories you will work on in The Healing Codes. I believe it is the most important because once this wall has been removed, it makes all the others heal a lot quicker.
Think of how you feel when you let something go. That weight is lifted off your chest. You feel lighter and breath easier.
I don’t want you to think I’m condoning the injustices that have been done to you. Forgiving doesn’t mean you continue to allow someone to hurt you. Forgiveness is really more about you and raise you up.  It releases you from anger and hate and the need to punish.
The unforgiveness code opens the gates to memories and beliefs that are blocking your heart from healing and it works on neutralizing the most resistant of feelings. It also works even when you don’t think you could ever forgive something or someone. And It shifts your subconscious into an awareness of what is most needed for your spirit.
By placing your intention on healing this category, you will notice a difference in how you are feeling very quickly.
Forgiveness is part of our original blueprint designed by God and needed by every cell of our body to function properly. It nourishes and revives your soul.
YOU will thank yourself!
I'm Melissa Zoske, Energy and Wealth Alignment Expert.
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I agree Melissa, forgiveness is so powerful, forgiving yourself and others is such a freeing thing to do x
Thanks Sam!
So great of you to stop by. I hope you are treating yourself good today.
Have a great week!
Agree, this is THE most important step towards healing. The most difficult one and the most challenging, yet the most rewarding and beneficial as well. 🙂
I know, right? This has probably been the biggest game changer for my healing over the last 8 years. The amazing thing is once you start forgiving, you find more things to forgive, and even more to ask forgiveness from. I know I looked at some situations in a very jaded way. I mainly felt I needed to forgive the other people. You know what? As soon as I did I saw my own actions where not so clean… Then the real work began (and tears 😉 We are always a work in progress and I feel so fortunate to have so many beautiful people in my life!
‘Forgiveness is part of our original blueprint designed by God and needed by every cell of our body to function properly. It nourishes and revives your soul.’ – This is super Melissa. Finding ways to release and forgive is one of the greatest things we can do for ourselves.
Thanks Elle!
You are always an inspiration to me! I am so glad we have been able to connect! I hope you have a great week!
Take Care!
I see your point Melissa … and a very valid one at that. Especially forgiving myself for any “indiscretions”. Hanging on to them is hurting me. Thank You.
Be good to yourself
David
Hello Melissa! Wonderful post. I really like how you show how we can free ourselves by releasing the burden placed upon ourselves by withholding forgiveness. This is a great message for those who really are holding on and struggling with the pain of something in the past which has hurt so deeply. I hope that it reaches those who can really use and benefit from this message. Well done!
Oh Victor, I do hope it helps someone out there! Thanks so much for stopping by. When you said the word “withholding,” it brought to mind an almost punishment feeling. Our subconscious works so differently than we expect doesn’t it? To punish by withholding. Or another thing that comes up is protection. By not forgiving we are actually keeping the thing that hurt us further away, so it can be a form of self protection. There is so many different directions it can go. Once the layers are released we can get such a better view of the bigger picture! Then WATCH out! Healing central 😉
Have a great week!
Hi David!
Since we all have a past, we can all find many things, that if we could rewind the clock we totally would-lol!
Thankfully I believe we can all press that reset button, by moving forward with the best intention and taking the steps that are needed for that. And hey, what better place to start than Forgiveness right?
If you ever want to try out my method send me an email. I’ll send you the free starter instructions and you can see if it is a fit for you. It’s much easier than meditation and feels great!
Take Care!
So true – forgiveness is pulling the external plugs and reconnecting to the Source within. We may not see a bigger picture, but we can certainly see a different picture. In that we gain room to move where before we felt tethered to a certain end. Freedom is truly ours to be.
Nice Lorraine,
A different perspective…Yes. It is so cool to know we have that option and so many different angles to view. You are great!
xx
The best thing women can do right now is forgive themselves and forgive everyone else who’s ever done them harm.
Imagine being rid of the burden, anger and grudges you’ve toted along with you over the years. How will it feel to let them all go? I can tell you from experience that it feels incredible.
Thanks for this lovely post.
Thanks Shann,
I love this topic! Yes there is nothing like letting those negative feelings go. The weight that is lifted is… I can’t even describe it. Knowing that, don’t you try harder to move the process along faster, the next time you need to move on and forgive? It’s awesome how we create a faster way to heal in every new experience.
Thanks for being here 😉
Hugs
Rubbing salt on open wound – that is a very apt metaphor to holding on to grudges. In the end not forgiving or letting go, really is, as you say, to our own detriment more than to another’s.
Do you think that forgiveness is something that sometimes needs to come with time?
Hi Li-Ling,
I believe that sometimes we just are too hurt to forgive in this moment so we don’t want to let it go. It’s sort of like protection… a repeated reminder of what has happened, so you don’t let it happen again. That being said sometimes people do need time to forgive BUT once you realize how much it is harming you, it gets easier to speed that process up.
Great question and I’m sure many people have different feelings toward that. Thanks for asking that.
AND thanks for taking the time to visit 😉
xx
Forgiveness can make all the difference, Melissa. This line is so true, “You are keeping that anger, hurt and resentment alive and well fed.” when we don’t forgive. For all parties involved it is healthier to forgive and to move forward in a positive way. Take care and thanks for a great post!
Thank for stopping by Cathy,
Yes it is the healthier way to go for sure. I have had a hard time int he past with the letting go part. It really does prevent you from moving forward in your life. How do you hold on AND move forward? I don’t know if that is possible. It keeps you so stuck in many areas of life, doesn’t it. It’s not always say but so needed.
Hello dear Melissa, what a great article. And so true…
I sometimes think we do not forgive because it keeps as connected to the person who has (in our opinion) wronged us. It is like we keep the line open because we cannot quite believe that this really happened, and somehow hope for a different outcome.
Much love to you
Jutta
Absolutely Jutta. It can be like a safety net at times. Somewhere inside we may just not want to give it up. I can feel the truth in that, thanks for bringing that view up 😉 I think for me, the not forgiving, many times was my protection plan. If I didn’t let them back in again then I wouldn’t be hurt again. I didn’t realize at the time that forgiving didn’t mean I had to let those people back in my life. I could forgive and move on, some relationships are just not healthy and it’s best to let go.
Thanks for being here! I appreciate it.
“So who is that hurting most?
You.”
Poignant, beautiful, and refreshingly true, Melissa. This is a touching and powerful reminder. Thank you, my friend.
Thank you Vironika,
So true and I appreciate your taking the time to stop by 😉
xo
Love this Melissa, so, so true. Forgiveness is essential to feel free and to unburden us from the pain of carrying it. It can sometimes take time, as in repeated intentions to forgive as wounds resurface. I usually find forgiveness quite easy, even with some serious ‘mishaps’ but there was an instance in my life when I had to truly work on forgiveness, of myself for allowing certain behaviours continue for so long, and of the friend who had let me down in so many ways.
Each memory evoked a sense of grief and I had to choose it over and over… but in the end I managed to ease the painful wounds and accept our parts in it. I find that those we feel we have to forgive the most are those who have come to teach us truly valuable lessons which we need for our growth.. which ultimately means no forgiveness is even required in the grand scheme of life. In this human realm we need it to guide us 🙂
Thanks for a beautiful post Melissa
Hi Caroline,
I love your words, “I find that those we feel we have to forgive the most are those who have come to teach us truly valuable lessons which we need for our growth.”
Beautiful and what a way to soften feelings…
Thanks so much for stopping by girl!
((hugs))